Gossip Gone Wild!

First I would like to say how grateful I am for those who see me as a trusted source to process some of life's messiest situations. I think I should also clarify immediately at the fore front of this blog that this is in no way directed at you reading this. This is for you reading this. If you think this is about you specifically in any way and at any point, just finish reading this, call me and we'll hopefully just clear that mess right up.

Let’s talk about gossip.

What's the difference between-

 

the destructive and energy draining forms of gossip, running our mouths, or self-seeking behaviors that put others down so someone else can move up 

vs .

the creative processing of what's going on in our lives with another human being?

 

My daughter often thinks I don't understand or remember what life is like as a teenager. This topic is something that happens quite frequently at her younger age. What's most unfortunate is that this behavior I'm discussing is hard to forget because it can continue way into adult life if we do not cultivate different ways to resolve situations we face.

Whether I am working with someone or speaking with someone that is a friend or part of my family, I make sure it is a completely open forum for this person to let it all out. They can share their perspective no matter how on or off point it is or seems to be. Let it flow and let it go. This is often an important part of the process for healing. Allowing someone to be authentic and honest with themselves and talking out situation with another human being can be extremely helpful.

What happens next is what determines whether this conversation is going to remain destructive or transform into a creative and beautiful process that changes everyone involved for the better. The most important and defining difference in the conversation of the gossip and someone who wants to process a situation, is the action. This is where creativity gets to come in, and I love me some creativity!

For the sake of this blog I am going to use my book  Embracing The Spark  and the chart found in Chapter 10, “Making the Most of Your Actions: Getting Creative.” Using this chart I can easily find words in the destructive column that align with the act of gossiping or self-seeking. On quick review of the list, here are some that could work in the destructive column:

Unsettle, Disempower, Invalidate, Ruin, and Misunderstand.

Whether the rumors are about you, or someone else, the negative talk could be affecting one or more people in the situation in sat least one or several of these ways mentioned above. Trust me, there were more. I chose to stop at five actions.

If we then look to the creative action on the opposite side of the list that correlates to each of these words we will find the words:
 

Establish, Inspire, Dream, Devise, and Conceive.

(Wow, do those words already sound and feel better or what??)

When we engage in a conversation about a rumor, speaking negatively about someone who may have hurt us directly or indirectly, or talking about someone who did this or that to someone other than us, we are acting more in alignment with destructive behaviors. These behaviors naturally develop into less favorable transition points for our energy, feelings, and thoughts. Our relationships with others can now become negatively impacted whether we are involved or not in the situation from this space forward.

Although we can’t always avoid a conversation like this, we can however find a creative solution and action that leaves us with a more favorable transition point for forward movement. Just because we are looking for a creative solution, doesn’t mean we are trying to control or manipulate an outcome. It means we are choosing to stop the ball the negative behavior from rolling down the metaphorical hill and transmuting it into a more sustainable form of energy for ourselves.

Let’s look at the creative words I found earlier with the chart and ways we can use them.

 

·         Devise- You may have already recognized that by Devising a plan of creative action is already pulling us out of the destructive behavior into a constructive one.

·         Conceive- You may want to contemplate the actions of the “offender” by trying to understand or Conceive where they were coming from when the “offense” occured.

·         Establish- If we don’t have any idea how to understand where that person was coming from, and the relationship in distress is a valued one, we may want to Establish a dialogue with the person to stop the rumor or gossip in its path.

·         Dream- Rather than letting the rumors invalidate you or your work or whatever the situation may be, keep Dreaming. A lot of haters show up when you start pursuing your dreams and self-seeking of others will show right up.

·         Inspire- Let the gossip Inspire you to be a better human being or let go of the people in your life that aren’t kind or care enough about you to Establish the dialogue with you. Let them be a reflection of what you'd rather not be.

Whatever you choose to do with your creativity, don’t worry about how the other person may or may not react. This is a gift you are giving yourself. You are choosing more favorable transition points for your energy and well-being moving forward. As we change, heal and love ourselves, we do this for the world. This is how we end gossip, self-seeking, and disempowering talk between us and those around us.

If at the end of the dialogue with your trusted companion, you find absolutely no creative action is necessary for you to make because what you’re talking about is really not yours to get involved in, try this-   

 

Establish a connection with your top and bottom lip

by shutting your mouth.

 

Oh, yes- creativity is always an option and it always works!

 

So much love and blessings to all of you creative souls!

-jodi

 

 

Here's the link to my website if you would like to purchase a copy of the  book! http://www.jodilynnlamure.com/book.html
 
 
 
 
 

 

LIghting Our Path With Creativity!

 

 

Have you ever experienced that moment, when your path aligns and you feel like your purpose begins to expose itself with greater clarity? This recently happened for me again. Little bits continue to reveal themselves as I align my energy and actions with a more natural perspective of creativity I will be sharing in the re-release of my edited and expanded book, Embracing The Spark: How Creativity is Shaping Our Reality.

This blog is basically me meditating while I am writing. It is an example of how the imagination can guide us, using intuition and information connected to the higher self. The heart lights the path when the mind can cloud or dim the same light. By writing out my thoughts in this manner, a new revelation came to me in regards to my journey. Enjoy!

It’s as if you have been traveling along the journey at night, and as the sun slowly begins to rise. Even though you may not be able to see the sun, the light finds you through the trees, revealing a little more of the road ahead.

Negative beliefs quickly attempt to extinguish this new, fiery enthusiasm and hope. The thoughts of many who walk near me in this forest, and many who have walked before me, leave a lingering energetic impression on my belief systems. Knowing this, I begin to sort through them, looking to find my own compass. It is not lost. It is only covered up in this bag of unnecessary belongings.

Gratefully, I quickly find the compass, because this new path has led me to a dense and overgrown area of the woods. I can tell it has been traveled through before, but it is all completely new to me and definitely has had a lot less traffic. The brush has grown up tall and thick. I have no idea where to begin. I trust I have been led here for a reason, so I know there must be a way for me to move forward.

Determined, I bend back the first branch which blocks my path and I am face-to-face with spider. She has started to fade into sleep after an evening of feeding and diligently working on her own intricate home she now rests upon. Although I love her energy, I much prefer to stay out of her personal space. A moment of hesitation and fear creep into my thoughts again. Can I move forward through the unknown without disrupting her or will she be upset with my intrusion? She notices my eyes gazing at her, and turns her body to face me.

She is a mirror for me. Here she is, at the entrance of my path, representing one of my greatest gifts (creativity) and one of my greatest fears (spiders). There is no coincidence she has come to be my teacher. It is here I am able to recognize for the first time it was never her I was afraid of. It was of the gift itself. Spider was only holding the space for me to recognize it. As my eyes soften from this new awareness, she scuttles off to the edge of her web to let this lighter version of me pass by.

I have found the entrance. The sun continues to rise and the path before me is brought a little more into the light.

I am so grateful that tears of joy, rather than tears of pain, begin to flow from my being. They have become more common place in my life these days. I wish the same for each and every one of you. I know the reflection each one of us sees can be a beautiful.

As I discovered from spider during this writing meditation, even my gifts can be scary. When I wrote about the negative beliefs that come in, I am referring to ones attached to this. For example, I fear if I fully embrace my creativity and the beauty I see all around me, others may perceive me as living in a fantasy world. Heck, some of them already do! “How dare I talk about how great and grand reality can be when there is so much discord going on in the world right now?”

That’s just it! I know everything we can imagine can be real. Energy grows where attentions goes. By me focusing my efforts and energy in the areas that make the living experience a positive one, I am contributing more positively to the whole. As I continue to embrace my creativity, which by nature is always building, I can participate by helping build the new world. We all can participate in building the new world. All we have to do is believe in the fantasy or construct the beautiful in our own reality, through one creative action at a time. I have been watching this manifest around me in such magnificent ways. This is what I want to share with all of you.

Take today to play with your imagination. What is it whispering to you or showing you? What is your heart inspiring you to build around you? Start there. Did you know starting is an action aligned with creativity? It is possible. It is not fantasy. It is just as real as anything else. True creativity is always building, without hurt or harm to yourself or others. When we align our actions by this definition, we automatically stay out of any area that is destroying the world around us. Your imagination knows, your heart knows. All we need to do is listen.

(Any of the words highlighted in orange are actions that align with creativity. Use these if you are feeling less than creative, or blocked. They will help you begin aligning your energy with the creative.)

Love light and hugs!

     jodi lynn